How Surrogating Drains Your Power (and What to Do About It)
Have you ever walked away from a conversation feeling totally drained — even though nothing actually happened to you?
That might be a sign of surrogating.
So… what is surrogating energy?
It’s when we unknowingly take on someone else’s emotions, stress, or trauma into our own body. Like slipping on a backpack that isn’t yours — but full of someone else’s emotional baggage.
It happens more often than we think.
You’re feeling great.
Then your best friend calls in tears. You listen. You care.
And after the call? You feel flat, foggy, or emotional.
That shift? That’s surrogating.
Your system tried to help by absorbing their pain… but now you’re carrying something that isn’t yours to hold.
Surrogating can happen with anyone:
→ Friends
→ Family
→ Partners
→ Workmates
→ Even pets or global events
And while it often comes from compassion — the truth is, it disconnects you from your own power. It leaves you tired, overwhelmed and off-track.
When we’re full of other people’s energy, we’re not fully ourselves.
We can’t think clearly.
We can’t feel what we need.
And ironically, we’re less able to help the people we care about.
Staying in your own energy isn’t selfish — it’s essential.
When you’re grounded in your own space, you’re more effective, more present and more powerful.
You hold space from strength, not survival.
Self-Check: Are You Surrogating Someone Else’s Energy?
- Do you feel drained after spending time with certain people — even if nothing dramatic happened?
- Do your moods swing based on someone else’s emotional state?
- Have you ever felt anxious, sad or off without knowing why — only to realise someone close to you is going through something?
- Do you find it hard to tell what’s your emotion and what belongs to others?
- Do you feel responsible for “fixing” or carrying the pain of those you love?
If you answered yes to even one of these… you might be carrying energy that isn’t yours.
It’s time to drop the backpack.
You deserve to feel clear, light and grounded — in your energy.
And you can still care deeply for others, without losing yourself in the process.
✨ Ready to release what’s not yours and reconnect with your personal power?
Let’s clear the noise and bring you back home to yourself.
📩 contact me “CLEAR” or
to get started.
Your energy deserves a reset.
J 💜💚
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